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Sunday, April 30, 2017

How to speak to others without saying a word.

Question: I want to connect with other people more, but I’m introverted and it’s hard for me.  How can I step out of my shell? I totally get it. In my regular life I tend to get in a closed off albeit comfortable rut. My son attends elementary school where the college classroom model is in play. He goes to school two...

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Friday, April 28, 2017

14 Day Challenge to Declutter our Places & Spaces!

Hi. I’m amy. And I am a complicated person. As I’ve told my friends for years, “It’s not easy being me.” I am high maintenance. Not like The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, but like that statue- The Thinker. Just ask my hair stylist- I drive her crazy. She gives me these gorgeous haircuts and highlights and I wear ponytails and baseball caps. Or...

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Friday, April 28, 2017

Waking up to the lie of “happily ever after”

Most everyone I know is going through a phase of “happily ever after” isn’t rainbows, but we don’t know if this is normal or not.  What do you do when you learn “happily ever after” isn’t what you thought? Like many little girls, I believed I could have a life like american movies. Prince Charming. A passel of well-dressed, well-behaved children....

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Thursday, April 27, 2017

7 questions to kickstart self-confidence when we don’t “feel” it.

Question: Can you describe what self-confidence and a healthy self esteem feels like? If I ever had them I forgot what it felt like. Sometimes I feel hopeless to even try and rebuild them. Feeling good about ourselves can be a serious challenge. Our emotions can change from day to day. Some days I look in the mirror and think, “Alright. I’ve...

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Tuesday, April 25, 2017

I have body issues & I don’t want my daughter to have them.

Question: How can I get my crap together so my daughter doesn’t grow up with the same body issues I have? -M How do we help our children thrive in areas we don’t? The reality is- we all have issues, multiple issues. Issues that have been formed and fed by broken people and a broken world. I’m not playing a card from...

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Sunday, April 23, 2017

What God says about the “words” I’m not supposed to use.

For about a year now, I’ve had this strange ritual. It’s as much a part of waking up as making coffee while I rinse my mouth with coconut oil. I can’t do it at the same time I swish around the coconut oil because it requires talking. In the morning. Out loud. When my household is still asleep. I told you...

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Saturday, April 22, 2017

Question: How can I learn to dream bigger for my life?

I don’t come from a family of dreamers. I have a hard time seeing what’s possible or what “could be” beyond my current circumstances. How can I begin to dream if I don’t know “how” to dream? -H Dreaming big (or small) can be scary. The questions that haunts most of us is- What if I dream big and my...

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Friday, April 21, 2017

Question: How do I set high expectations for myself and others, yet be gentle and loving when we fall short?

I find it so much easier to lower the bar and be un-judgey, or raise the bar and beat myself (and others) up. I’d like to achieve the AND.  -L Maintaining high expectations and working toward them is an essential part of  the self-actualization process. Setting our sights beyond our current experience creates room to stretch and grow. But demanding too much...

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