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Thursday, June 1, 2017

6 lies I believed about life purpose

If purpose is part of the reason we’re here, it seems like it should be easier to find. I mean really. Why must we get lost in the woods like Hansel and Gretel trying to follow a half eaten trail of bread crumbs? And why, when we’re trying to find our way, does the trail often lead to the witch’s house? Shouldn’t...

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Monday, May 22, 2017

When being busy becomes an idol

Being a purpose junkie is very busy work. So much to do. So little time. How can I make the most of every minute? I was rereading my favorite self-help book, The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results. I drank in the wisdom of its simplicity.   “What’s your some day goal?” Gary Keller asks, “What is The One Thing...

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Thursday, May 11, 2017

8 ways to recover when you’ve lost your sense of purpose.

 dear amy- Some days I wake up wondering, “What am I doing with my life and why? And does any of it really matter?” What do you do when you lose your sense of purpose? -M This happens to me, too. I’ll have a spurt when things are rockin’ and rollin’ and feeling right. Like I’m in my lane, doing...

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Wednesday, May 10, 2017

How do I stop comparing myself to others?

How do I stop comparing myself to others? I know that I have to accept myself etc. but it’s a very old habit of mine and very hard to change. -B What if we had a new way to look at this age old problem? What if you don’t… Stop comparing yourself? In reality, I don’t. We don’t. They don’t. He...

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Tuesday, May 9, 2017

What are the best and quickest ways to calm an anxious mind and body?

Sometimes my mind spirals. I began to worry about one thing and that leads to another and another, until I’ve gotten myself totally worked up about everything. My body feels tense and the worry keeps coming like a freight train. What are the quickest and best ways to calm an anxious mind and body? -K This happens too me to....

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Monday, May 8, 2017

How can I find my passion?

Sometimes my life feels so monotonous. I hear people talk about passion and I even think I see some people live in theirs. But I’m not sure how to do that. How can I find my passion? -D I once had a coach tell me that passion meant- “pass i on.” What part of me do I want to pass...

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Friday, May 5, 2017

How do I give voice to my secret fears, doubts & questions?

I have so many questions about life, but they kind of float around in a fog. I have a hard time putting them into words or even knowing what to ask without feeling overwhelmed. How do I give voice to my secret fears and doubts and questions? -J As a counselor and a coach, asking questions is the most important part of my...

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Thursday, May 4, 2017

How can I stay true to myself while going through difficult seasons?

How can I stay true to myself while going through seasons of life doing things I never wanted, like parenting a difficult child? -M When seasons of struggle or even difficult decades come- and they do come– the very first thing I do is pair down. Let’s talk for a moment about the tv show “Tiny House Nation.” It’s one of my...

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Tuesday, May 2, 2017

This 1 realization changed the way I see other people.

What is the one thing you did/started doing in life which changed everything for the better? I was fresh out of my masters counseling program. I’d taken the national exam and was waiting for a licensing interview with the state counseling board. It was against the law for me to see clients until my licensure process was finalized. The lull was weird,...

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Monday, May 1, 2017

How do you stay positive when those around you wallow in self-pity?

How do you stay positive when those closest around you wallow in their own self-pity? How do you cut the conversation short without being insensitive? One sensitive way is the LEADS method.   I’ll outline it below. But first, a few thoughts about words and how we use them. Our words have power. If we speak something often enough, positive or negative, we...

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