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Friday, April 28, 2017

Waking up to the lie of “happily ever after”

Most everyone I know is going through a phase of “happily ever after” isn’t rainbows, but we don’t know if this is normal or not.  What do you do when you learn “happily ever after” isn’t what you thought? Like many little girls, I believed I could have a life like american movies. Prince Charming. A passel of well-dressed, well-behaved children....

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Thursday, April 27, 2017

7 questions to kickstart self-confidence when we don’t “feel” it.

Question: Can you describe what self-confidence and a healthy self esteem feels like? If I ever had them I forgot what it felt like. Sometimes I feel hopeless to even try and rebuild them. Feeling good about ourselves can be a serious challenge. Our emotions can change from day to day. Some days I look in the mirror and think, “Alright. I’ve...

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Sunday, April 23, 2017

What God says about the “words” I’m not supposed to use.

For about a year now, I’ve had this strange ritual. It’s as much a part of waking up as making coffee while I rinse my mouth with coconut oil. I can’t do it at the same time I swish around the coconut oil because it requires talking. In the morning. Out loud. When my household is still asleep. I told you...

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Saturday, April 22, 2017

Question: How can I learn to dream bigger for my life?

I don’t come from a family of dreamers. I have a hard time seeing what’s possible or what “could be” beyond my current circumstances. How can I begin to dream if I don’t know “how” to dream? -H Dreaming big (or small) can be scary. The questions that haunts most of us is- What if I dream big and my...

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Thursday, April 20, 2017

Question: How do I manage my envy for other people’s lives when they are experiencing something I’m wanting?

“Every Facebook post is about pregnancy, engagement, a new job, or new adventure. I’m genuinely happy for them but it comes with an initial twinge of jealousy.” -A When I receive a question like this, my first and most basic response is- “Me too.” Then I wonder, “What is operating inside of us that makes us want what we don’t have?” This question...

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Saturday, April 15, 2017

Question: How do you know what changes you want, what life you want, and what you want at all? I just don’t get it at all.

“What do you want?” This question can feel overwhelming if we’ve been searching for an answer within, or even beyond ourselves, and just can’t seem to find one. When I went back to school to get my counseling degree, they taught us to ask it. Early on in my therapy career, I found myself asking people this painful question. I didn’t...

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Saturday, April 15, 2017

Question: How can I discover my purpose on earth?

Finding purpose is actually simpler than I once thought. But I didn’t used to know this. I used to chase purpose like a dog chases a squirrel. Purpose seemed to scurry up a tree just when I thought I was near enough to grab it by the tail. I spent years chasing the butt end of that squirrel- always believing my...

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Friday, April 14, 2017

Good Friday. Bad Decision.

I was avoiding the inevitable. My iPhone was hot in my hand as I clung to the covers. I held it under my pillow and squeezed the side button to snooze it each time the alarm went off. I didn’t want to get up for my morning quiet time because I didn’t want to hear the same crickets serenading a decision I’d been trying to make....

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Friday, March 17, 2017

This 1 simple thing has totally changed my life.

 I started using the social media site Quora last week. I received an email asking me to answer the following question- How can I discover my purpose on earth? I got goosebumps from head to toe as I read it. This question echoed in the dark hallways of my head for a very long time. But I realized I don’t struggle with...

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