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Saturday, April 22, 2017

Question: How can I learn to dream bigger for my life?

I don’t come from a family of dreamers. I have a hard time seeing what’s possible or what “could be” beyond my current circumstances. How can I begin to dream if I don’t know “how” to dream? -H Dreaming big (or small) can be scary. The questions that haunts most of us is- What if I dream big and my...

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Thursday, April 20, 2017

Question: How do I manage my envy for other people’s lives when they are experiencing something I’m wanting?

“Every Facebook post is about pregnancy, engagement, a new job, or new adventure. I’m genuinely happy for them but it comes with an initial twinge of jealousy.” -A When I receive a question like this, my first and most basic response is- “Me too.” Then I wonder, “What is operating inside of us that makes us want what we don’t have?” This question...

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Saturday, April 15, 2017

Question: How do you know what changes you want, what life you want, and what you want at all? I just don’t get it at all.

“What do you want?” This question can feel overwhelming if we’ve been searching for an answer within, or even beyond ourselves, and just can’t seem to find one. When I went back to school to get my counseling degree, they taught us to ask it. Early on in my therapy career, I found myself asking people this painful question. I didn’t...

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Saturday, April 15, 2017

Question: How can I discover my purpose on earth?

Finding purpose is actually simpler than I once thought. But I didn’t used to know this. I used to chase purpose like a dog chases a squirrel. Purpose seemed to scurry up a tree just when I thought I was near enough to grab it by the tail. I spent years chasing the butt end of that squirrel- always believing my...

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Friday, April 14, 2017

Good Friday. Bad Decision.

I was avoiding the inevitable. My iPhone was hot in my hand as I clung to the covers. I held it under my pillow and squeezed the side button to snooze it each time the alarm went off. I didn’t want to get up for my morning quiet time because I didn’t want to hear the same crickets serenading a decision I’d been trying to make....

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Friday, March 17, 2017

This 1 simple thing has totally changed my life.

 I started using the social media site Quora last week. I received an email asking me to answer the following question- How can I discover my purpose on earth? I got goosebumps from head to toe as I read it. This question echoed in the dark hallways of my head for a very long time. But I realized I don’t struggle with...

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Thursday, February 2, 2017

The best kept secret to “having it all.”

Listen to the audio version of this post here. I’ve turned some sort of imaginary corner. Imaginary because I can’t see it and have no marked day that it happened. But something has happened nonetheless. I hadn’t planned on writing about it because it’s difficult to describe. But that’s a writer’s job. To put into, as few and concise words as...

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Friday, January 27, 2017

The non-cheesy secret to a life of hope and joy.

Listen to the audio version of this post here. I’m beginning to learn the secret to hope and joy is not what I once thought it was. It’s not about comparing yourself to those around you. It’s not about staying super busy just to prove you can. It’s not about blaming your boss, or spouse, or circumstances, or God. It’s not about hiding under...

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Thursday, January 12, 2017

You can’t believe everything you hear.

You know that thing you’ve always heard is true about you? Maybe it’s not.   My son started 6th grade at a very unique school in the fall. They follow the college model. Students attend class two days a week to get instruction, receive assignments, and take tests. They work at home the other three days to follow up their learning. It gives a...

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