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Sunday, December 3, 2017

Is the Christmas story outdated & unrelated in 2017?

It felt like it was 90 degrees and rising inside. The giant store had just opened its doors the Friday before. My mom and sister had decided to take my four month old nephew on the “outing” and asked me to go. The isles were over crowded with shopping carts that were overcrowded with Christmas crap. Trees and tinsel and toppers...

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Wednesday, November 22, 2017

for those Without a norman rockwell thanksgiving

This reflection isn’t for those who anticipate the perfect Thanksgiving. It’s written for those of us who are celebrating and hurting in some way. It’s written to help us find hope in what is often the mixture of emotions holiday meals stir up. Onward…   It hit me like a ton of bricks. I was thinking about Thanksgiving tomorrow. How many of...

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Monday, October 23, 2017

Courage in the face of Criticism

I hate criticism. It can send me spiraling. Especially if I am being criticized about something I already beat myself up over.   When people criticize me, my first reaction is to talk them out of it. Tell them why they are oh, so wrong about me.   I will chew and stew and argue. Like a lawyer, I want to build a solid case. I want to...

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Tuesday, August 22, 2017

“The End.” A chance to begin again. Want to join me?

He was nervous. I was grieving. We each had our reasons. The silence hovered as we drove 30 minutes in traffic to travel less than 10 miles. When we arrived, he said,  “Just let me out here.” But “here” was in a busy parking lot, so I drove around trying to find the drop-off lane. I couldn’t, so I pulled in...

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Thursday, June 1, 2017

6 lies I believed about life purpose

If purpose is part of the reason we’re here, it seems like it should be easier to find. I mean really. Why must we get lost in the woods like Hansel and Gretel trying to follow a half eaten trail of bread crumbs? And why, when we’re trying to find our way, does the trail often lead to the witch’s house? Shouldn’t...

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Monday, May 22, 2017

When being busy becomes an idol

Being a purpose junkie is very busy work. So much to do. So little time. How can I make the most of every minute? I was rereading my favorite self-help book, The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results. I drank in the wisdom of its simplicity.   “What’s your some day goal?” Gary Keller asks, “What is The One Thing...

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Thursday, May 11, 2017

8 ways to recover when you’ve lost your sense of purpose.

 dear amy- Some days I wake up wondering, “What am I doing with my life and why? And does any of it really matter?” What do you do when you lose your sense of purpose? -M This happens to me, too. I’ll have a spurt when things are rockin’ and rollin’ and feeling right. Like I’m in my lane, doing...

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Wednesday, May 10, 2017

How do I stop comparing myself to others?

How do I stop comparing myself to others? I know that I have to accept myself etc. but it’s a very old habit of mine and very hard to change. -B What if we had a new way to look at this age old problem? What if you don’t… Stop comparing yourself? In reality, I don’t. We don’t. They don’t. He...

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Saturday, May 6, 2017

Why won’t God answer my prayers?

I pray for certain things to change or get better and they don’t. Why won’t God answer my prayers? -J I don’t know. But I can share a story from my life.   Five years ago this month, my father-in-law called. He told us his doctor was sending him in for a heart procedure. They would apply dye and make sure everything...

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Friday, May 5, 2017

How do I give voice to my secret fears, doubts & questions?

I have so many questions about life, but they kind of float around in a fog. I have a hard time putting them into words or even knowing what to ask without feeling overwhelmed. How do I give voice to my secret fears and doubts and questions? -J As a counselor and a coach, asking questions is the most important part of my...

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